You may be wondering what on earth this is all about!
Not an unreasonable question, because few people would imagine that one way to repair a relationship breakup would be to use a system of text messaging via SMS messages on a mobile phone.
Yet this is the proposition put forward in Mike Fiore’s Internet Program, Text Your Ex Back.
The basic idea is that you can use his advice about texting (which comes from a downloadable program which consists of e-book, MP3s, videos and more), to establish successful relationships with partner with whom you have recently broken up.
I suppose this is indeed a rather unusual idea – yet, a number of psychological studies have produce compelling evidence that texting is a vital component of any relationship.
So it may be therefore no surprise to learn that some enterprising Internet entrepreneur – the aforementioned Mike Fiore – has come up with a program which is specifically designed to allow people to re-establish a relationship after a breakup by sending text messages to each other!
Indeed, perhaps there’s less surprise around the very fact that it exists than there is in the suggestion that people might wonder whether it works or not!
For me, the answer is that it does seem to work — at least as measured by the fact there is very little negativity about it on the Internet, and that’s unusual for a program of this kind. Usually, Internet programs which are controversial or disreputable achieve whole websites devoted to them about the charlatanism of the producer and so on and so forth.
However, back to Text Your Ex Back.
Can Text Your Ex Back Really Repair Your Relationship?
Well, the answer is “yes it can” — and that’s very clear. You see, it’s based on sound psychological principles, that is to say the principles of counseling which would be used if a couple had broken up and went to see an expert relationship counselor face-to-face.
These principles are more or less as follows: removing the emotions from the situation, getting down to the basic emotional issues that caused the relationship to breakup in the first place, and then ensuring that communication is clean and clear, without victimization, blame, guilt, shame or any other quality which will not allow people to speak from an open hearted place.
Some people have suggested that using text messages to repair a relationship, or at least, using them to re-ignite the interest of an ex-partner is manipulative.
It’s an interesting observation really, but I’m going to offer you the suggestion that almost anything that people do in a relationship that isn’t based on open and honest communication is manipulative.
Surely it is the very fact that people are using straightforward communication devoid of emotional overtones and overlays that makes Text Your Ex Back a rather more ethical and moral system which could very possibly act as a model for communication in other arenas — I’m thinking particularly of e-mail, for example.
But I suppose at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter whether you actually believe in TEXTING your ex as a philosophical practical system — what matters is whether you need to use it to repair your relationship.
You see, Text Your Ex Back in downloadable form does offer a complete information package for people who want to establish neutral and clean communication with their partner, specifically with the object of establishing a new and different relationship.
Mike Fiore has provided complete and comprehensive instructions on the kind of messages that you need to send at every stage of developing a mature relationship — although, it has to be said, that some of his other works like “Text Your Wife into Bed” or “Text the Romance Back” probably more appropriate for a mature relationship than Text Your Ex Back.
However let’s not be small-minded about this — anything which promotes good relationships and healthy communication is a very good thing in my book, and certainly Text Your Ex Back is one of those wonderful programs you can find from time to time on the Internet which actually look like they could both be good value for money, as well as useful and effective.
I am a fan, and I will admit that fact here and now –and the reason I’m such a fan is because I’ve spent a long time trying to work with people whose relationships have been in tatters, and who were unwilling to adopt any kind of mediation, or indeed adopt any kind of decent and open communication with their (ex) partners.
The truth of the matter is that open and honest communication takes considerable emotional maturity, and perhaps in the early stages of rebuilding a relationship you’re not likely to be in place to offer either of those qualities to your ex partner.
So, to get back together with them you probably do need a neutral form of communication which offers much less opportunity for misunderstanding and miscommunication — in that way, you can actually say what you really think, and you can genuinely offer an open-hearted approach to an ex-partner.
All in all, I think Text Your Ex Back has a lot to commend it, and I have recommended it to quite a few of my friends – with apparently successful results. Of course there’s only one way to really find out whether it works and that is to actually check it out yourself — which you can do if you click here.
Make no bones about it, Text Your Ex Back is a system which is going to work for a certain number of people — it’s certainly not going to work for everybody. Here’s a video which tells you a little bit more about it.